How to Flirt with a Girl
Now I’m going to share with you how to flirt with a girl. Flirting isn’t really all that hard, and it can be very fun.
In fact, before I go any further, let me make that point very clear. Flirting should be fun. If you take it too seriously, or if you are one of those guys that just shouts sleazy comments at women, then that is not fun. It will come off as creepy or slimy and you won’t get anywhere.
Could Flirting Really Be This Easy?
At it’s core, flirting communicates two things. First it expresses some kind of sexual interest. And second, it leaves the girl feeling better about herself and uplifted.
So here is how to flirt with a girl:
The first part of flirting is to express sexual interest. This is important because it let’s her know implicitly that you are interested in being more than just friends. And the best way to express sexual interest is to essentially tell her that she’s sexy. Not cute. Not beautiful. But sexy!
Now it’s important not to just tell a girl that she’s sexy out of the blue. If you do that, you’re no different than the stereotypical construction worker hollering at every woman that walks by in a skirt. This is where the second part of flirting comes in.
Flirting should be a positive experience for the girl. It’s hard to tell what sort of mood a girl is in or how your flirting attempt might impact her unless you stop and have a conversation with her first. Get her to put something of herself out there. Let her tell you something personal about who she is. Then, take that bit of information and use it to flirt with her.
Here’s an example of how to flirt with a girl. Let’s say she says she’s studying French at college, have her tell you something in French. Then say something like, “Okay, you can’t talk to me in French anymore. It’s too sexy and I can’t handle it.”
You see? I just told her she’s sexy, and I complimented her on something personal that she put out there.
Now shes in a position to flirt back. She could try to drive me crazy by speaking in French for the rest of the night, or any number of other things. It really is that simple.
Another little trick you can use is the power of pushing and pulling. First you say something to make her think that you’re pushing her away. Then you follow that by pulling her back in. This is a little “emotional roller coaster” that will keep her from thinking of you as boring.
Take a look at what I just said:
“Okay, you can’t talk to me in French anymore.” — This is a push. Initially it sounds like I’m rejecting her.
“It’s too sexy and I can’t handle it.” — This pulls her back in. You took that initial rejection and flipped it 180 degrees into a compliment.
That’s how to flirt with a girl. Not too challenging is it? I’ll admit, it might take a little practice to build up the “mental muscle” to think of this stuff in the moment. But the rewards are more than worth the effort. Now go out there, and have some fun!