How to Kiss a Girl
So maybe you’ve gone out on a date and you’ve ended the evening with an awkward silence where you knew you had to escalate things, but you just didn’t know how to kiss a girl the right way or you just didn’t know how to force yourself to move past your nervousness and kiss her.
It’s a common problems, and something I used to have a real hard time with myself. I actually used to be pretty good at getting dates, but I would just blow it over and over again because I just didn’t know how to kiss a girl at just the right time.
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First of all, let me just tell you that if you’ve managed to get a girl to spend time with you and you believe that she might even be somewhat interested in you, then you’re doing a lot better than many other guys out there, and you should feel good about that. All you need to do is learn how to kiss a girl the right way.
How to Kiss a Girl Guide
Most of the problem is really just in your head. You probably are wondering things like, “How do I know she likes me enough to kiss me?” or “What do I do if she doesn’t like me that way?”
All of this really doesn’t matter.
There is no real sure-fire way to know what a girl thinks of you that works 100% of the time.
What you want to do is move as fast as you can to find out whether or not she’s the kind of girl you want to spend your time with.
So you’re just going to have to kiss her at a reasonable time, like at the end of the date or when the two of you are alone. When you get good at this, you can just FEEL when the time is right. The whole situation just seems to feel thick and you can tell it’s time to kiss her.
When you make your move, one of two things will happen.
One, you two kiss and have all sorts of racy fun! Good job!
Or two, she blows you off. If this happens, you should be ecstatic! You just found out that this girl isn’t worth you spending any more time with and you can put your attention on other girls.
Just say something nonchalant like, “Well, you can’t blame a guy for trying.” or “Just take it as a compliment.” Then wrap up the date as quickly as possible. Don’t let things get weird, just treat her like a friend for the rest of the night.
After that, the ball is in her court. If she decides later that she made a mistake and that she really does like you, she’ll call you. But it’s her move. You should be out spending time with women that do want to kiss you (and hopefully want to do other things with you too).
Let me share a personal story with you that illustrates exactly how to kiss a girl the right way.
About a year ago, I met up with this girl that I was really excited to go out with. Every once in a while you meet a girl that just hits you full force in all the right ways and you just can’t believe that she is even willing to spend time with you. For me, this was her.
I was only in town for a short time, so I took her out to lunch at one of my favorite spots in the city. Then as I was taking her home, she invited me up to her place to show me some paintings she was telling me about earlier. We talked and relaxed on her sofa.
Then a silence fell over us.
I could tell it was time to make my move. I had no idea how this was going to play out, but I just went with it. I let things get a little awkward for dramatic effect, then I said to her, “I’m sorry, I just really want to kiss you right now.” Then I leaned in and kissed her.
At first there was a little bit of resistance, but she must have decided that she liked it because then she relaxed and just went with it. It’s important to not back away at the first sign if resistance. If she really doesn’t want to kiss you, she’ll let you know. But expect there to be a little barrier at first that will quickly dissolve.
Also, you should really take control of the kissing. I’ve noticed that a lot of girls will try to do their own thing the first few times you kiss them. Just be firm and direct with your own kissing style, and eventually they’ll to let go and just let you kiss them in your own way.
Afterward, I looked her in the eye and said, “You have no idea how long I’ve wanted to do that.” She really like that, and we went on the have quite a fun weekend.
So, that’s how to kiss a girl. I know it can be frightening to put your intentions out on the line like that, but when you think about it, isn’t actually exciting? Regardless of how she reacts, it says nothing about you. You’re just doing what a man does, and you have nothing to apologize for.