How to Ask Questions to a Girl and Attract Her

It’s no surprise that the best way to get to know a girl when you meet her or are on a date is to ask questions to a girl. There are lots of stupid lists of “date questions” you can ask like, “What’s your favorite type of rock and why?” But these sound really cheesy and canned if you just ask them out of the blue. This just comes off as corny and desperate, which won’t help you at all.

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Don’t memorize a bunch of “date questions.” Instead just let conversation flow naturally. The reason most people go out looking up “date questions” is because their nervous and they don’t want to blow it. Memorizing a bunch of stupid questions isn’t going to help you. What you need to do is get out of your head and just pay attention to what’s actually happening in the moment when you’re with her. Be present to how she reacts to things and actually give a damn about her experience, and you’ll never run out of things to talk about.

Also, a lot of guys ask questions to a girl that can be answered with one word. Don’t do this. It will creep her out like you’re interviewing her.

Do you live in the city? – Yes.
Where do you work? – At a bank downtown.
Do you have any pets? – No.
Do all these stupid questions annoy you? – Yes.

Ask questions to a girl that are open-ended and actually give the two of you a chance at having a two-way conversation.

What part of the city do you live in? – I live in the XYZ Distirct
What do you like about that neighborhood? – It has a lot of character and it’s pretty close to work…blah blah blah….

You get the idea.

Ask questions to a girl about her life. Get to know what it’s like to be her. Drill down deeper and deeper by asking questions like “How did that make you feel” or “What was that like?” You can also watch her facial expressions and reactions to things and ask questions to a girl like, “You looked a little upset when you were telling me about your sister. What’s that all about?” This can open up things that the girl didn’t even realize about herself.

If you do this for awhile, you two will start to get a really strong connection and it will seem like everything else in the room falls away. You can be in the loudest bar in town, but it will seem like the two of you are completely alone in your own little bubble of intimacy.

Wouldn’t you rather have that than some bullshit questions in your back pocket like, “If you were a fish, what kind of fish would you be?”

So stop trying to think that you need to memorize a bunch of horrible questions. Just actually show up mentally and pay attention to what’s happening and what she says. Ask questions and drill down deeper. Most importantly, you can ask any question you want to as long as you actually care about the answer.

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