LJBF – Let’s Just Be Friends – What Can You Do?
LJBF is a term used to mean “Let’s Just Be Friends.” This is something that a girl usually tells a guy that she doesn’t feel any attraction toward. It’s kind of a nicer way of saying “Hey you creep! I would rather gouge my eyes out than sleep with you!”
After you’ve been LJBF, what can you do? Is it really over?
No, it doesn’t have to be over. But let me say something first. It is going to be a lot easier for you to go out and meet a new girl and hook up with her than it is going to be to change this other girl’s mind.
She Can Be Yours with These Clever Techniques
If you’re really committed to making things work with this girl, here is what you need to do.
First, once a girl LFBF’s you, you need to back off completely. She knows you like her, and the last thing you want to do is hang around her like a dog begging for scraps from the dinner table.
Take a few weeks and just don’t talk to her for awhile. During this time, start seeing other girls. You don’t have to actually date them (but it’s good if you do), just as long as you spend time with them and it might appear that you’re dating them. The more attractive these women are, the better.
The idea here is to spark some jealousy on her part. If she hears that you’re spending time with some very attractive women, she’ll wonder if you’re dating them. And even better, she’ll start to ask herself if she made the right choice by not giving you a chance.
Second, work on improving yourself. I can’t say what, but something about you just isn’t attractive to this girl. You need to reinvent yourself. Improve your style, your personality, and what you’re doing with your life. Become better in every way you can think of.
Get some new clothes. Learn some new skills. Learn how to be a better conversationalist and become more popular.
Third, after a while, resurface. Call up the girl and say something like “Hey, I haven’t seen you in awhile. Let’s grab coffee and catch up.” When you meet her, she should be impressed with the new you. She’ll probably feel a little jealous about the other women in your life too.
From this point, you just need to treat her like any girl that you’d be seeing for the first time (like she never LJBF you). You’re a new man now and this girl is seeing you in a new light. This gives you a shot at attracting her.
No, getting LJBF doesn’t have to mean that the door is closed on a specific girl. All it means is that your approach was wrong. Get the girl to see a new side of you and you’ve got a strong chance of sparking that attraction and starting something with her.